"Why in life do we often create an illusion of permanence and stability?"
We're all being forced to do things differently right now.
But for leading UK wellness coach John Bullock of Pain Point Coach, it's also an opportunity for us to share in lots of aspects of our lives, including how we can adapt to change.
"Here one moment, gone the next. The Beatles song, ‘In my Life’ has a line that goes, “There are places I remember, some have gone and some remain.” There is something that resonates in the lyrics," says John "about holding on to the past and the comforts we invest in those same memories of endless summers and worry-free childhoods.
"Why in life do we often create an illusion of permanence and stability? Is it not a psychological magic trick performed so to distract us and prevent us from confronting the reality of our lives given the rapid pace of change in our technological age?
"There has been more change in the last ten years than perhaps the last two hundred years and yet we are still not prepared to embrace change and do something different, learn something different and be something different.
"We have all experienced auto-pilot, that part of the brain we engage when we happily go along in life in an almost dream-like state with no real engagement unless we feel threatened and we become more alert & focused due to the external stimuli.
"We are shaken from our comfort zone. There is nothing wrong in auto-pilot in itself…albeit you become too comfortable with it and never leave it and, that my friends is the danger. Too comfortable. The slightest deviation from our comfort zone can cause an emotional response totally out of kilter with the event.
"To move our lives forward and to be the best we can, we need to challenge ourselves and be prepared to leave our comfort zones and to do so on a regular basis. Why? Simply because those that adapt faster, learn faster, create new experiences and engage more will feel more happy and fulfilled in life and that’s got to be good.
"It’s also true to state learning and challenging ourselves releases endorphins in the brain…a kind of ‘mother nature happy pill.’
John has created a small booklet containing affirmations and ideas we can implement in our lives that will help us adapt to change and move forward to becoming a more successful and fulfilled you. They include the following:
I can adapt to any change in life.
Change is one of the only constants in life. I can readily adapt to any change that life throws my way.
Change is exciting. Life is too short to relive the same day over and over. I relish change and the unknown. I find life more exciting when there is change. Each day is a new adventure.
I am flexible. My ability to adapt and grow makes me able to accept new people and situations.
I can find solutions to any challenge and seek out ways to maximize my enjoyment, regardless of the circumstances.
My self-development leads to change. I am always changing. I enjoy developing my talents and learning new skills. I like to challenge myself.
When i change myself, my life changes, too. The changes I create are the best kind. Adapting to these changes is easy.
I am open to new experiences and ideas. My mental flexibility serves me well when life throws a curveball. I can see the good in any situation. I can make anything serve my life in a positive way.
Today, I view life from a relaxed and accepting perspective. I take a flexible approach to life. I am willing to accept whatever comes my way. I can adapt to any change.
- What are three times I faced considerable change in my life? How well did I handle those situations?
- What can I do to become more skillful at dealing with change?
- How would it benefit me if were better at adapting to change?
John can be contacted on firstname.lastname@example.org m. 07764 929 131